Make effort today to be fully present. Give others the gift of your attention, time and presence.
DBT has a skill called the “half smile”. Even the name brings on a smirk from people; however I want to take a moment to really explain this one…
Half smile is NOT about faking a smile or having a weird Cheshire Cat/Joker type cynical smile. If I re-named this skill, I’d call it “pleasant expression”. Basically you are relaxing your facial muscles and then ever-so-slightly putting a pleasant expression on your face, almost as if you were recalling a lovely memory. When we use certain facial muscles, our brain is tricked into thinking we really are happy and it will send us the feel-good chemicals associated! It is so powerful and packs a big punch for being such a minor task.
Half smiling is similar to Tyra Banks “smize”. If you actually watch WHAT she is doing differently between her normal face and her “smize”, she has ever so subtle crows feet appearing at the corners of her eyes, and the corners of her mouth are very slightly being tugged toward a smile. These are minuscule details; however, your body will pick up on them and adjust accordingly!
Half smiling can be done at any point in your day for a mood boost, it works faster than caffeine and sugar! I would especially challenge you to half smile when you are irritated, it really takes the edge off! Mona Lisa is another great reference, she has the look perfected!
Researcher Paul Ekman has in depth research available on his website that covers the science behind the half smile if you are interested on a deeper understanding! https://www.paulekman.com/